College Tip #144

Do not over schedule your kids over Thanksgiving.

They love you, but they are exhausted. They need to see their friends. They need to see their significant other. They need to work. They need space to just decompress. And yes, they want to spend time with you, and they're going to spend time with you, and of course you should.

But before you make assumptions and get tickets for the Nutcracker and holiday lights or whatever it is you do for the holidays, check in with them. Find out their plans, you can share your plans, and if they can't do all the things you plan, please don't have hurt feelings. They love you and care about you, they just need time to just exhale and decompress.

About Harlan: Harlan Cohen is a New York Times bestselling author of the #1 book on college life (The Naked Roommate). He is the creator of Best First Year, a College Success and Coaching Program for Students & Parents. His video tips and advice reach millions of students and parents  on social media.  Tap to Follow Harlan.